A local art show hosts featuring all sorts of professional art and music hosts a youth gallery as well. In years past I’ve not paid much attention to the event but this year Sister is old enough to enter and (wonder of wonders) actually wanted to enter. Even so she seemed reluctant to share any of the art she’s done in the past deeming each piece imperfect in some way or another AND she seemed reluctant to create any new pieces held back by an invisible thread of fear that they too would fall short of perfection. Finally she produced a simple pencil sketch of a goose head that while great for a sketch didn’t really qualify as an art show entry. It lay on my desk for a couple of days. I was unsure how to tell her that an art show entry deserved more time than the 3 to 5 minutes she’d spent…. or even if I should tell her. I had no suggestions for something better and I did want to support her effort - slight though it was. Then lying in bed last night just before sleep overtook all thought, it came to me - a project divided into small pieces so as not to overwhelm; a subject she consistently drew with confidence and a chance to use most every medium in our arsenal.
The finished piece consists of nine 5″x5″ squares and the word “Heart!” mounted on a 16″ x 20″ piece of matte board.
Descriptions from right to left and top to bottom:
Watercolor heart, Bead “necklace”, Humpty-Heart Dumpty in ink and colored pencil
Clown heart in marker and foil shapes, a sunset scene in chalk, Curly cue Heart done with markers that change color
Checkered heart in crayon, Glitter heart, and Pipe cleaner with colored pencil border.
Though I cut out the letters she’d drawn and mounted the finished squares Sister completed the rest of the project on her own. (That is to say she did all the drawing and gluing and such while I sat nearby and praised each artistic choice.) She started at 9am and we delivered the finished work at 4:25. She was so proud. I was proud that we made it through an eight hour project together without a major meltdown and from the experience I gleaned these nuggets:
Lesson #1 - It may seem a little thing to the untrained eye but this artwork represents a great accomplishment. Sister would never have stuck with an ordinary project of that size but somehow because each portion was so small and because the goal of each was clearly defined she worked with gusto and was even heard to say, “Mom, I’m glad you thought of this! It’s so much fun.” …. more than once. This is important lesson for me - the mom, the teacher to understand. I am comfortable with large tasks finding it easy to organize the parts. Goals in my world are rarely unclear or poorly defined. But these skills do not come easy to everyone. To some they must be taught … cultivated - Sister is one of these.
Lesson #2 - Sister is so social that tasks done alone are drudgery but I can easily make a task worth doing or even fun simply by being present and engaged. For a mom, who like most mothers, is a multi-tasker extroidonaire sitting in one place doing “nothing” but offering encouragement to a single soul seems like a waste of resources but it is important nonetheless. In fact, it is far more important than the laundry left undone and the dishes in the sink.
Lesson #3 - Variety is the Spice of Life or Ditching School Makes Things Fun. This one I knew but it bears repeating. The curriculum is great as a guide but all work and no play makes Jack a very dull boy indeed. Sister enjoyed the day because it was different and I enjoyed it because she was happy.